Relationship Intimacy Keys For A Better One Part

There are few things in this world that are better than a great marriage or relationship. Antithetically, there are very few things worse than a lousy one! Statistics say half of all marriages end in divorce, and non-marriage relationships are even worse. Let's face it; great relationships take a lot of work! So how can we "stack the deck" in favor of an AWESOME relationship? Each article in this four part series lists 13 Keys for improving relationship intimacy!.

1. Learn what your spouse likes in a back rub and practice giving it to them. Discover the difference between a massage that relaxes and one that arouses, and use them appropriately. Both types will improve relationship intimacy.

2. Give your spouse LOTS of compliments, especially in public. Look for opportunities to let everyone know what an AWESOME person you are sharing your life with. Your relationship intimacy can only benefit from this practice.3. Rediscover those "smiling eyes" that wink, flirt, and gaze longingly at your spouse.

Practice the "look of love" that you can share at any time and in any place and thus improve relationship intimacy.4. Create a Fill-in-the-Blank love letter for him or her and mail it to them, along with a self addressed, stamped return envelope. This one will give your relationship intimacy a real boost.5.

Get your wedding license reduced, laminate it, and carry it proudly in your wallet or purse. Show it to new friends, and they will be impressed by your intimate relationship.6.

Learn to use the telephone answering machine or cell phone voice mail when you are at home together. Prove to your spouse that they are more important than anyone who could be calling on the phone. He or she will know your relationship intimacy matters.7.

Discuss acceptable, unique ways to display affection in public. Holding hands, hugs, linked elbows, kisses, secret words, and so forth. And by all means ? use them to improve relationship intimacy!.8. Plan a Day Trip for just the two of you.

Include a picnic or eating out. It could be a drive through the countryside, shopping, flea marketing or antiquing, or visiting a new town or quaint village. Practice relationship intimacy during the day.

9. Arrange for a manicure/pedicure and spa treatment for her. Allow her to feel what it's like to be pampered. You won't be sorry and neither will your intimate relationship.10. Create "Coupons" to be redeemed at any time.

They could include Any Household Chore, One Free Neck or Foot Rub, A Bubble Bath, A Candlelight Dinner for Two, A Massage, A Night of Love-Making, One Day Together Doing Only What You Want, and so forth. Use your imagination to improve the intimacy in your relationship.11.

Buy tickets to his or her favorite event. It could be pro basketball, baseball, or football. Or it could be the opera, the ballet, or the symphony. Really go the second mile by getting tickets to Pro-Wrestling, a Monster Truck Show, or NASCAR! Or you could go to a fashion show or all night "chick Flicks." Make a weekend of it, and I'm sure your relationship intimacy will get some enjoyment as well.12.

Say "I'm sorry" the next time you mess up or something goes wrong, and mean it! Then try very hard not to do that thing again. And the next time they ask for forgiveness, grant it with humility. There is something intimate about being vulnerable to one another.13.

Attend Bible Study and Worship together. Believe it or not, intimacy is a God thing. When you are ready, you can add praying together, daily family devotions, teaching Sunday School or a home based Bible Study together, charity work as a couple, and so on. This will boost your spiritual relationship intimacy dramatically.Here is a tool for using these ideas. Go through the entire list together and rate each of the ideas.

Ladies, place your numbers on the left side of each item. Gentlemen, place your ratings on the right side of each idea. Use the following rating scale:.

1 = My Personal Favorites!.2 = I Would Love For You To Do This For Me!.3 = I Would Love To Do This For You!.4 = Let's Discuss This Idea Further!.5 = There Ain't No Way, Baby!.

Have fun with this list of 13 ideas. The bottom line of each article in this series is really two-fold. First, I want you to learn to think of the wants, needs and desires of your spouse before you think of your own. Second, I want you to learn to have fun together again! Let your imagination run wild! Try actually doing the things listed in this article.

If you will do just one activity each week from the entire series of articles, you will increase the intimacy in your relationship (at least once a week) for an entire year! You can find all the articles in this series in the Feature Articles Section of K-9 Outfitters, a Division of Damascus Road Enterprises.Danny Presswood, 2006 All Rights Reserved.

By: Danny Presswood